Growing Up

Building your child's social skills can give learning a big boost

Students learn much more at school than reading, writing, math and other important subjects. In every class, they practice getting along. This is important because research shows problems with social skills can interfere with learning. Without social skills, it's hard to succeed in school or in life. Some activities that reinforce social skills at home include:

• Role modeling. Children notice how parents interact with others. Do you introduce yourself to new people? Get together with friends? Support people you care about? Let your child see you being a good friend.
• Reading stories. There are countless children's books about friendship. Ask the librarian to help you find some that match your child's age and interests, such as Lost and Found, by Oliver Jeffers. After reading, talk about the story.
• Role playing. Kids need help practicing manners. Before going to the park, for example, you and your child might pretend you're meeting new people. "Hi, I'm Jacob. Nice to meet you!" Also focus on sharing and kindness.
• Socializing. Give your child opportunites to spend time with kids. Invite friends to play. Go to storytime at the library. Visit busy playgrounds. Sign your child up for kids' programs at community centers, museums and elsewhere.
• Relax. Children don't need lots of friends. Just one good buddy is fine, as long as your child cooperates well with others. If you have any concerns, talk with his teacher and work together on solutions.

Reprinted with permission from the November 2010 issue of Parents make the difference!® (Elementary School Edition) newsletter. Copyright © 2010 The Parent Institute®, a division of NIS, Inc. Sources: Kathlyn M. Steedly, Ph.D. and others, "Social Skills and Academic Achievement," National Dissemination Center for Children with Disabilities, www.nichcy.org/Research/EvidenceForEducation/Documents/NICHCY_EE_Social_skills.pdf; C. Miller, "Why Friends Are Important," Parents, www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/development/friendship/why-friends-are-important/.